Ways to break up

 When you know a relationship is coming to an end or should come to an end for whatever reason, how can you do it?  Several television shows, movies, books and much more have advice on how to do it or portrayals of it actually being done.  There are so many ways that this can be executed but if it is not done correctly, you could end up feeling bad.  So keep a mental note of these suggestions in mind if this is your situation.

Be courageous.  It takes courage to stand up when a relationship needs to end.  Standing up for yourself is healthy because it enables you to establish boundaries as to what you will and will not tolerate while dating and later in marriage.

Be Fair.  If you were on the other end of the break up, how would you want to be treated.  They deserve more than a brief  e-mail message, text or voice mail saying, "It's over."

Choose the right setting.  Whether it be face to face over the phone through a letter or having a discussion, much depends on your circumstances.  Avoid meeting in a setting where your safety could be in jeopardy or in an isolated area where wrong desires could be stirred.

Speak truthfully.  Talk honestly about why you feel that the relationship cannot continue.  Use viewpoint statements, like, "I feel put down when you.......

Be willing to listen too.  Was there a misunderstanding, but be cautious about not allowing yourself to be manipulated by clever words.   Be reasonable and consider all the facts.